In india, depression is defined as many things (but expect for depression). In my personal experience, people who are suffering from depression also called in different names, let me explain. Depression in India means stupid, over thinking, some ghost is attacked, foolish, don’t learn new things, try to act normal, be happy always why u always tell ur problems ?, u shouldn’t share your problem with anyone they will laugh, after sharing problem people be like hmm yeh I know it’s ok don’t worry now it’s not there, tings will get better, ayya all these small things only your doing like this, aye don’t worry. These are the things I got to hear.
Well, problems is for all. There are different methods to slove it. Depression does not come to you. You just get into it unknowing. There are reasons to. The problem whatever you are facing is too long, everyday it’s you who are living with the problem. When you can’t talk to anyone because of the people’s mentality who laughs at it saying some lame things. Like “ayyo, if this ur problem I have much much bigger than yours u know.” “Do yoga da, everything will be good”. “Don’t worry you will have better future.” . Some doesn’t know that not all problem are same. You don’t face the same circumstances the other person is facing just to tell “ok don’t worry da”. Not all have to same mental ability to take it in the right way. Not all the same capability. When someone needs to talk to you about their problems listen first, even thoug “you” who is masters of all feel it lame. Their problem and your problem are not the same. They will people with week minded, strong minded. Learn the difference.
People’s life with depression is not easy. It’s take too long to understand them. First they will feel helpless, hopeless, thoughts to die. Your days and their days are not the same. When you wake with happiness they wake with exhaustion.
It’s true that everyone have a untold story, but in my opinion only few have untold stories. Life in depression is hell. You don’t trust anyone, you don’t want to do anything, you don’t want to have a life, you hate light and many. Problems might be temporary. But the impact of it is permanent.
In my personal experience, I have seen depression, life near to death, life during recovery and life after recovery. Each stages have different ways. I will explain u two parts. Life during recovery and life after recovery. Life during recovery is not anything compared to living in hell. You understand your surroundings in the way that you will be not ready to do anything with it. If the life goes on it goes. During this stage, it’s something to find a hope and help. Sometimes life is favourable withe most it’s not. Favourable times, let’s call it good times can give a hope, while unfavourable times like bad times gives u reasons for falling in depression again. Still as the recovery process, there you will see a drastic change in life. Your behavior gets positive, you slightly start trusting people, you will smile at little things, yow will find a new way to be happy. But life is soo unfair that little things might also get you depressed. Small things in life can also pull you down. Anger, sadness, emotion still keeping you busy. Getting angry for silly things, over emotions for little things, having lesser patience, can’t wait for long time. For other it might seems like “mad person”. But people with it can feel the crew. Its because they would have already seen the darker part of life, now they expect something good to happen. It’s like when your hungry you can’t wait to eat more, if u get sufficient food you will be happy, still if u get insufficient food you still are hungry, the you obviously want to eat more. The same thing with this. Life after recovery is no less. Being impatient, still being hopeless and helpless is the same throughout. After all the experience you will still not find a peace in life. Having fickle minded, loosing interest easily, getting sad about little things, having no hopes of life, not trusting people much, wanting to be alone most of the time, getting over excited, having no patience to wait, lack of interest still finding a hope.
Life with depression is not easy, fluctuating emotions is a common thing. Stop telling people lame things like to do yoga, wait, have patience, move on is not the solution. They expect you to understand them.
Some people get through it some people silently suffer, some people bare it and some just ignore. Whatever the thing is open up.
Life is unfair to many, but make it a habit to always be there for yourself. Therapy and being by their side is most important. Please never ever tell lame things to people with depression. They need some magic and fantasy words.
Atlest if you can’t help your beloved one, stup up and stop blaming for small things. Like you have ambitions they too will have.
In my personal experience, I have seen people betraying, laughing, telling to be normal, calling mad, stupid, funny. Experience with depression is little thought to explain. Heartbreaks, failures, empty pockets, loneliness, unacceptable, non achievement, unclear life, anxiety, fluctuations emotions are part of it.
All I want to tell is, please stop being lame, we are here to support each other.
Thanks for sharing your motivational words,it's very useful for people with depression,keep up the good work😊
ReplyDelete